WHY YOU CAN'T GET A DATE ON A SATURDAY NIGHT AND WHY MOST SUICIDE BOMBERS ARE MUSLIM

I swear, this is the actual title of an article in the Journal of Social, Evolutionary, and Cultural Psychology, 2007. I just couldn't resist using the title.

I wish this happened every single day of everyone's life, but today I paused and just realized how incredibly blessed I am. I was breathing without any pain (after bouts of pneumonia, I do appreciate this), I have a home with heat (our night's are getting down in the 20's still), a dog who adores me (how can anyone not love that?), I have really great relationships with all three of my kids (honestly, this is one of the most important things in my life to me), and I live in a free country. The list could go on and on, but it was a wonderful moment.

We all need more of those.

HOWEVER, mingled amongst those great things (including titles of articles) is an upcoming opportunity to take one of my adult children to re-qualify for her low-income medical assistance (a necessity if nothing else simply to cover the prescription medicines she is on). I don't really mind giving her a ride, but I have to insist that I do not go in with her for the appointment. When I am present, she lapses into the incredibly dependent child-mode, and wants me to take over in the interview - and she can do it by herself.

So I either escape to Target (and feel incredibly guilty) until she calls, or sit in an extra-stinky parking lot (it's outside of an auto supply place, and the smell of oil is overwhelming), read a book, and normally develop a bad headache.

An escape plan is required, and I am plotting as I write. I will need the following articles - something with a decent amount of caffeine, at least 2 lbs. worth of chocolate, an interesting-enough new book that nevertheless doesn't require too much concentration (I am trying to finish "Black Swans," and it midway turns from a very captivating view of random chance into some sort of mathematical boasting), and a parking spot as far away from Auto Depot as possible. And perhaps a fresh bottle of Febreeze or nose plugs.

Wish me luck, world.

2008 = 145 lbs. (if you divide it 2008 by 13.84... is that the amount of calories I should limit to daily... so one sip of water?!)

New Year’s Resolutions (or as a friend of mine said today, “New Year’s Revolutions!”) seem to be a tradition in failure. Very few of mine have lasted more than three weeks, and although the old adage is “If you do something for 29 days, it becomes a habit,” I guess I am just exceptionally good at breaking habits.

One of my bad habits is eating too much of good things. I don’t think my diet is incredibly bad (remember, chocolate is a food group in my house) - I eat a lot of yogurt, which is good... except when you eat a LOT of it. Peanut butter is a great source of protein, and since I eat very little meat, that’s important... except when you plaster it on my toast much like mortar (you can measure the level of peanut butter in inches... like 3-4 inches....). And I drink ONLY Diet Dr. Pepper and Diet Coke... but hardly anything other than that. I eat a couple of apples a day, and that’s not terrible... right?

The main reason for my excess storage-space (i.e. FAT) is that my 52 year old body has gotten very well acquainted with afore-mentioned storage-space (i.e., FLAB) and remains committed to a long-term relationship with this cell-condition (i.e. ENDOMORPHIC).

But, ever the militant optimistic, I persevere in maintaining the yearly appointment with frustration. Armed with a tape measure, banishing the scale, and with a fridge newly stocked with yogurt (but not too much), sequestrating the sodas (now that is just keeping away... they still will be accessible with a little bit of work... well, actually, it won’t be that hard to get to... maybe I should go sink them into the horses’ water-tank or hid them inside one of the extremely prickly mesquite trees we have in abundance), and somehow believing it is possible, I once again set out in my quest to obtain my ideal weight (that is, what I weighed last time I left Hawaii, was running four miles a day, and actually looked GOOD in a bathing suit).

Wish me luck - or perhaps a miracle.

HOW TO PUT A BLENDER TOGETHER CORRECTLY AND OTHER MYSTERIES OF LIFE

You can be stumbling along happily in life, tripping over occasional bouts of sheer joy and falling into gaping holes of wonder (don’t those verbs just sound wrong used that way?). And suddenly you wander into a bright fluorescent-lit room with extremely unflattering large mirrors and staring back at you is a rather worn-looking 50ish woman on the incorrect side of chunky. Wearing rather ill-fitting clothing (granted, it was 20 degrees, and I was wearing about four layers of clothing), very very short hair with only about half of it spiked, and the rest just sticking out at odd angles. Complexion that suddenly appears rough, splotchy and uneven.

Add to this having NO place open to eat other than Denny’s (over an hour wait just for a table) and Carl’s Jr. One advantage of being related to a fast-food restaurant employee is that they can get behind locked doors, which my daughter did . . . and was directly assayed by management to put on a uniform and get to work.

So coming home this afternoon, having ingested two fast-food hamburgers and two highly- caffeinated drinks in the part 18 hours and having spent over an hour at the hospital watching a child of mine fight through a drunken stupor of a little bit too much anesthesia given during the procedure of a gastric look-and-see (I could not in my wildest dreams repeat the actual medical term for snaking a camera down a throat into the stomach and taking photos of the lining, in this case shooting a wonderful color image of an ulcer, most likely caused by handfuls of ibuprofen ingested daily)(if I only had a scanner, I would post it for you)(now what was I talking about), I arrived home desperate for a nap (I normally sleep in a snore-free zone, and last night was denied both my white-noise fan background noise and company of my furry, snore-free canine companion).

But since I had drunken several malicious Diet Cokes (actually, just one Diet Coke - the other one was a Dr. Pepper . . . which is worse), I only laid quietly for a few minutes before my cat, denied my presence for, what, eighteen hours, jumped up on the bed and demanded close, physical contact with his chin and ears for about a half hour. I gave up eventually, kept myself awake vacuuming, taking out the trash that wasn’t taken out last night (read that STINKY remains from someone’s dinner), cleaning up the remains of someone’s dinner BEFORE it ended up in the trash, then awarded myself by (supposedly) the rest of the evening playing spider solitaire.

However, when that rest of the residents of my house stomped in about fourteen seconds after I had begun my first game, I made the fatal mistake of opening proclaiming, "I HAVE HAD A VERY ROUGH DAY AND I AM NOT IN A GOOD MOOD PLEASE LEAVE ME ALONE."

Somewhere a long, long time ago I was taught that if you were direct and honest, you would get what you wanted. HA! This particular chunk of scrupulousness (another just cool word - it looks like either a very rare disfiguring disease or a medieval term issued to knights on horseback) caused an immediate disappearance of one individual and an extremely defensive stance from the other one. Within minutes, I was accused of being offensive (for using disinfection wipes on a common object - I just don’t want to catch someone else’s cold - and I wasn’t blatant about it, really), and was tiptoed around for the rest of the evening.

So now everyone has gone to bed, my dog is asleep at my feet, the dishwasher is loaded, and I have promised myself an extremely long, very hot bath, and then at least one disc of The Office while I eat the last bit of ice cream there is in the freezer.

THE POWER OF FREE SPEECH

On Sunday, a letter I had written to the editor of our local (read that ‘small’) newspaper was published. The majority of human beings, I believe, simply read such articles, bellow their approval or disapproval to the spouse in the other room (the one who does the cooking, cleaning and laundry - and it ain’t always the woman, I know), and then the air is cleaned, at least in their mind.

For me, however, any bellowing on my part only starts the dogs yipping and my spouse becoming extremely agitated because I am agitated and begins planning bombing whatever-central-government-installation-or-business that has sparked off his wife.

Taking my pen in hand is not a option when you have arthritis and the temperature keeps hovering below freezing (but yes, it’s a DRY cold), but my nifty keyboard is always available for me to pound out my persuasion into Word Perfect. And if that action is not enough to vent my frustration/anger/irritation/astonishment/adoration, then I send it off into cyberspace to my blog or (in this particular instance) to the local newspaper.

Although my husband has been working security matters our entire marriage (except for a early and (mercifully) brief association with processing chickens (going from very alive to very dead and delivered to stores) - after that, almost anything would be an improvement), I often fail to consider possible consequences of my allowing my extremely unique name (both first and last) to be published (which is a requirement for letters to the editor). So far phone calls have been positive and supportive, but I didn’t even consider that I am the one and only **** ******** in the phone book for our entire county (which is right in between Delaware and Rhode Island for square miles - ain’t the Internet wonderful for trivia such as that being right at your fingertips?).

Therefore, next time I am not satisfied with simply noting down my displeasure with a certain news story or editorial opinion, I am going to pick an extremely controversial and volatile subject (let’s say a gay, black Mormon running for President; wouldn’t that make Romney proud?) (or, especially down here, the civil rights of people who are illegally entering our country) (or, even BETTER, the radical group of lisping chipmunks protesting the desugarization of Frosted Mini Wheats to improve cockroaches' dental hygiene), come out on whatever side is the most liberal (this is the state that produced Barry Goldwater, and has not moved much into the future as the years have passed), and simply wait for the fire-bombings to begin.

ON THE TENTH DAY OF CHRISTMAS, MY TRUE LOVE OVERFED ME

Christmas and Thanksgiving dinners are now my husband's responsibility (I resigned as head cook when my youngest moved out), and I have finally accepted the fact that he sees it as an absolute necessity to cook enough food to feed a small African country for approximately six months. We live far enough outside of a city that it's difficult to keep anything warm and deliver it to a food kitchen (to feed the homeless in our area for ten months), my dog is Jewish (he threw up every single last bit of ham he was fed this afternoon), and the horses strictly refuse to become carnivores (and since the stuffing was made with chicken broth, they won't even touch that). So I end up throwing aways three to four trash bags STUFFED with left-over food. Even if there was enough room in the refrigerator to store it all, I for one am sick and tired of it all after just ONE meal.

But two of my children came over, and actually we had a fairly nice time. We ended up watching a very silly movie about Nintendo games (talk about a dated movie - Super Mario?) with Fred Savage, Christian Slater and Bea Bridges - oh, yeah, it was bad. Again, if you take none of it seriously, and my son and I are allowed to heckle, it can be enormous fun (well, at least for my son and me).

Well, the evening is young (it's 9:45), my house is a shambles, and I have eight pots, one crock pot, three cooking sheets, and a stove-top covered with boiled-over gravy to clean up. Anyone wants to come over and help, I can guarantee watching the first "Shrek" and very poor singing along with the soundtrack.

WHY DO PEOPLE THINK I HATE THEM?

Some days I am a little more short-tempered, and I think today is one of those days. I have had three different individuals saying, at different times today, "You hate me", two sort of kidding and one very serious when she told me she was not going to church. And I know they are looking for reassurance that yes, I do love them regardless. But some days I just want VERY much to say, "You know what, right now I'm not extremely fond of you, so you're kinda right!"

My dog never tells me anything except that he adores me (and he that he needs to pee every couple of hours), and my cat, although he does treat me most of the time with appropriate royal disdain, jumps into my lap a couple of times every day and confirms that I am the best available source of stroking (but only after he has attempted to have the dog groom him and given up on that as a bad idea). My horse even whinnies for me... well, if I am over 10 minutes late feeding him, and then it isn't exactly a whinny, it's kind of a "hey, lady, you're LATE!"

I know Heavenly Father loves me regardless of how silly I am, and thankfully I have an daughter who does seem appreciative of my motherly sympathy, being sisterly (i.e. church sister) appalled (i.e. actions of one Chris), and grandmotherly adoration of the two most remarkable children in the universe (i.e. her offspring and my grandchildren).

And that helps - a lot.

THE BLUE TARP WALTZ

I am sore from laughing so much - there have been TWO Jeff Dunham specials on Comedy Central (the guy with the puppets - Walter, Peanut, Jalapeno On-A-Stick), and he is just too much. It doesn't help that my husband and son are not watching the show, they are watching me as I roll on the floor. Reminds me of the time Harmony and I went to some scary movie, and the guys in back of us were watching US jump instead of watching the movie.

My main accomplishment of the day has been (drum roll, please) getting the seven bales of hay that I had JUST purchased this week (translate that into $104.97) all covered up and tucked in comfortably with their teddy bears (not really - I only let them sleep with pacificers, but no toys) before the rain clouds hit (why do we say 'hit'? How about drop, or scatter, or relieve themselves - wait, forget that last one, that image is not one I want to think of). Everyone seems convinced that Arizona is all desert, and I'm here to tell you we have had WAY too much rain this year. I don't like having to watch for clouds, figure out which way the wind is blowing, and calculate how much time I have to get a leash on the greyhound, run out to the shed (which, unfortunately, still has a very incomplete roof due to the fact that Carls Jr. has re-claimed my son for the entire Christmas break, and I cannot lift the roof by myself), tie up the greyhound in a way that she will not kill herself (it's a complicated mixture of the right knots, threats, and orders to MY dog to watch her), cover the hay with a tarp... wait a minute, where is the tarp... oh, yes, it was obviously blown off LAST night, and it now at the far end of the horses' pasture, so I need to run down there and get it... and pray that the greyhound will NOT strangle herself... and then peel the tarp off the barbed wire... run back (and terrify both my horses as a galloping blue mass comes charging towards them), retie the greyhound (who has not killed herself, but has managed to get the leash around herself four times), throw the tarp over the hay, and then find enough heavy things to put over the tarp so (hopefully) I will NOT have to run to the far end of the pasture tomorrow.

Wow, I have to catch my breath now.

And I haven't even gone outside yet!

SPIRITUAL AUTISM

SPIRITUAL AUTISM

There was a family in our ward that had FOUR children diagnosed with autism. Their oldest, a daughter, was not affected, but they had twin boys and then two single births, both boys. It’s interesting that autism is like four times more likely to occur in boys than girls. But I spent ONE afternoon watching the kids, and have the utmost admiration for their parents dealing with this 24/7.

For those who are not familiar with autism, I even downloaded some definitions from the Internet (and yes, these are actually real):

- Defective social or personal relatedness behaviors
- Communication difficulties
- Inflexible adherence to specific, nonfunctional routines or rituals
- Preferred activities having a repetitive or stereotyped quality.

Someone who is autistic cannot comprehend another person’s view. They literally cannot put themselves into someone else’s shoes, or understand an expression such as "he knows that I don’t know."

Okay, try to stay and switch gears with me here, please.

Imagine yourself with a eighteen-month old baby. A child, a grandchild, a friend’s baby. Does this baby have:

- Less-than-perfect social behavior (i.e. crying at all hours for not always apparent reasons)
- Problems speaking to you (outside of "Mama", "Sit DOWN!" or "NO!")
- Preference for certain bath-time or bedtime customs (rocking, bath toys, a certain stuffed animal)
- Certain toys to be used in certain ways (i.e. a plastic hammer to bang on the brother’s head, a wooden playgate that needs to be inspected daily for possible defects)

Now, another big step back:

Suppose (and no, this is not sacrilegious and I don’t think you will be struck with lightening for imaging this - but wearing rubber-soled shoes wouldn’t hurt at all) that you are God. Yeah, the Big Guy Upstairs, with the white beard and Supreme Powers and all that.

Would He, looking down on Us, see us as:

- Less-than-perfect social behavior (jealously, anger, prejudices, inattention to family members, etc.)
- Communication problems with spouses, children, even with Yourself (remember, you are God in this)
- Insistent patterns (not necessarily positive) in friendship, marriages, family relations of conflict, arguments and resentment
- Physical self-abuse such as overindulgent behavior (food, sex, black pumps), exhaustion after repeatedly allowing only 4-6 hours for sleep (not counting watching "The Office" or "Firefly" reruns late a night), and improper use of your body (excluding, of course, consuming large amounts of Premium Choice Mint Moose Tracks Ice Cream or Diet Caffeine-Free Dr. Pepper sodas)

Now, if you are still with me, can you see Heavenly Father seeing all of us as spiritually autistic?

I don’t think that He looks at us in disgust or pity - He just acknowledges to Himself that we are just babies, and we have the capacity to grow, learn and reach beyond... IF we use the tools He has given us, to include prayer, the Holy Ghost, and the Atonement of His Son.


Wow, you really got this far - I am so proud of you!!

In the spirit of honesty, goodwill, and shopping at the last minute for presents you give to people you don’t really care a whole lot about but am certain they are going to buy you some sort of cheap left-over trash for has already been marked down 50% on some random Wal-Mart shelf, so you have to find something almost as cheesy and tasteless but not enough that it comes across that you think they are that sort of person (even though they obviously are)...

Wait a minute, where am I?

Oh, yes, honesty. I actually wrote everything following this paragraph yesterday, and somehow had to make that point.

So now this, this part below was written yesterday. I am writing THIS today, but everything else is from yesterday. I mean, I know I already said that, but then I wrote this, so now THIS is the starting point... Right here.

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Your children are always your children. Doesn’t matter how old they are, how long they have been on their own - they are still your children. And then they go right ahead and do something that makes them a child again.

Today we went and saw "I Am Legend." The only thing I will tell you is that if you are as much as of a sap as I am, bring a box of tissues. I cried TWICE in about the first twenty minutes.

However, I may very well see it again, just to concentrate on the special effects AND the incredible background. I am one of those viewers who (besides sitting through the ending credits the first time I see any movie) tries to focus not on the main action, but what is happening in the background. And they did an incredible job in this movie with... well, I don’t want to ruin the movie for you, but I think you’ll know what I mean when you see it... that is, IF you see it... and if you are the type of person who NOTICES things like that....

I, however mistakenly, think of myself as a logical, intelligent adult. Afternoons like this prove, as usual, that I am completely and totally wrong in this belief.

When I first came up with the brilliant idea of building a shed to store hay in, it was going to be an exercise, both physically and mentally. I had gotten, through amazon.com, of course, several books about shed building and basic carpentry skills. I thought with a saw, hammer, and measuring tape, I was ready to go.

I started off with a basic foundation. Unfortunately, just thinking about the pouring a concrete base exhausted me. So I figured, okay, concrete blocks. But did you know that solid concrete blocks are like, really heavy? I figured the next size down wouldn’t be that bad - and hey, if you take one step, why not take two?

The concept of leveling the ground also seemed extreme. I mean, I live in a river valley - gently sloping down from the mountains to the river, granted, and not as flat as western Kansas, but still . . .

So I just laid out the blocks - kinda evenly - and then began the floor, and walls. However, putting walls up and attaching them to the floor becomes a bit of a quandary when you are working alone. I just got incredibly creative with props and braces and very odd methods of support, and managed to get it up, wall by wall.

So three walls up - let’s do the roof, which I had randomly decided would be peaked and tall enough to stand up in (at least in the middle). Neglecting measurements, being a little bit puffed up with the fact that I, alone, had constructed at least something of a building.

And it looked rather nice. Only problem was, since I had forgone measurements, it was missing a necessary 10 to 12 inches to span the top. So I took it apart, and in true Hope-fashion, let everything alone for approximately four months.

Now that my college-age son is back for two weeks between semesters, I actually have a chance to finish my . . . er, experiment in gravity (i.e., what will stand by itself). So today I spent about 45 minutes constructing sloping side panels to support a simpler leaning roof.

I’m exhausted.

On top of that, I have a 1) spouse who is suffering from increasing bouts of severe paranoia, 2) son who is suffering from increased depression, and 3) daughter who is getting less and less hours of work, and thereby becoming more and more dependent financially on her parents.

Isn’t life fun?

I feel somewhat reassured when Elder Ballard says that there were too many conversations going on about the Church for Church representatives to respond to each individually, and that Church leaders "can’t answer every question, satisfy every inquiry and respond to every inaccuracy that exists." He advised students that they should consider sharing their views on blogs, responding to online news reports and using the "new media" in other ways.

See, I'm not wasting time, I'm just being a good missionary! ;-)

Today I am running just a little bit gun-shy. After a very full day at church, interacting with people who are (as always in our ward) very accepting, supportive, and kind, I made an 'inappropriate' shhhing sound at home, that could possibly be related to the same sound you make to an animal, which somebody sort of blew up at. I have no trouble with anyone comparing me to an animal, so it's kind of hard to understand - but then again, I'm not offended by a whole lot of things. Home should be the place where you should be able to relax - and sometimes for me it's the last place I can relax.

The cold weather has brought out an amazing view of the stars out here. Since we have regulations about light pollution out here (and that expression always seemed so incredible SILLY to me... until I moved out here and got to appreciate what it is like to have a clear night sky), you can literally see thousands of stars (haven't started counting them yet, but I know I'd run out of fingers and toes pretty quick). I keep meaning to ask my son-in-law if the cold affects the air molecules and stills them enough that you can see better, but almost every time I talk to him, I am actually calling to talk to my daughter, so I forget.

I am going to attempt to attach a photograph to this just to see if I can do (I do have a priceless one of my husband sticking his finger up his nose, but I'll try to find something a little bit nicer to put on).

Have I told anyone later that I have the most incredible children AND grandchildren?

First of all, I have the 'tipping point' of fashion and decorating styles, who also happens to be a daring photographer (who else would take, and have the nerve to PUBLISH a photo shot of bang's?), nurturing mother (of a 4 and 1 year old - and still retains her normal high I.Q. level... at least after the children are in bed and asleep), faithful military spouse (who has lived through, what, THREE six-month deployments - and the last one turned into nine-month one) AND serves as a sterling example and leader of young women in her church (perhaps best to demonstrate styles of bouffant hairdos).

Second, I am curs.... BLESSED with a slightly different child who, despite all dire predictions, has been living on her own and holding down a job for five+ years - who faithfully follows the housekeeping standards of a 14-year-old - steadfastly continues to spend her month worth of food stamps within three days - but also continues to work against a heap of prejudice at work but gathers a strong following of faithful customers who trailed her from one fast food drive-thru to the one a block away.

Last, but not least, my youngest is courageously tackling college, holding down a job, and making the major (albeit frightening) step of changing majors half-way through his higher education. He knows EXACTLY the right thing to say to his mom to help her feel better, but is still developing the necessary skills to successfully woo a girl.

Now, my grandchildren - besides inheriting the greatest looks from both sides of the family, and a heart-warming response to the collective 'tall' gene - show interest in both academia (tearing into books - literally sometimes) and sports (hammers and toys being used in both defensive and offense games). I don't even need to save my nickels and dimes to assist their education, since they have both qualified in advance for six Ivy League universities (are there six Ivy-League schools? Harvard, Yale...wait, are all I.L. schools on the east coast or something? Wait, Standford is one... I am going to have to research this further).

Whew. Enough bragging for one night. It's past midnight, and the early wake-up call at... let's see, it should be about 10 a.m.,.. will come soon enough! Plus I still have to check out some Christmas decorating photos tonight.

People seem to think that God just isn't too smart. That He doesn't realize you are praying / worshipping Him/Her unless you use the right title, the specific form and/or language of prayer, or be in the correct place at a particular time. And He/She obviously needs to find out from US what needs to happen, because we sure seem to want to be advisers rather than followers - and we WILL keep advising until things turn out the way we want it to be. Much easier than "thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven."

I've been meeting with some nice folk who believe the Bible - excuse me, their version of the Bible - is word-perfect. As much as I believe in the truthfulness of the Book of Mormon, I am certain there are some flaws - some from the original authors, some in translation. Since I can't write a full paragraph without a typo or misspelling, I figure I should grant the same chance-of-error even in scriptures (hey, Moses has a speaking disability - prophets are exempt from things, and whomever was taking notes for them).

I'll keep sharing with people what I know/feel/believe about God, but I also want to grant them the right to worship how, where or what they may (Hey! Sounds like the 11th Article of Faith, don't it?!). To some people, that works just fine if it's still Jesus Christ - but not Allah, Buddha or one of the Hindu gods. Listen, I really believe God knows when people are taking him into account, even if they call him something else. And He takes into account how they have been raised and taught.

My spiritual beliefs work great for me, and I would like to share them with other people. But I also have to allow other people that share their beliefs with me, and grant them the same privilege.

Can you believe this all began from a letter to the editor in our local newspaper, saying "A very prominent person in our government said, 'We all believe in the same God, just under different names.' I think this is a grievous and a very serious mistake to believe that. We know that Allah and Buddha was not the father of Jesus Christ," (grammar not corrected), "... I think you can call him any name you want as long as it is respectful and accept him as the father of Jesus Christ."

In other words, as long as it's a Christian belief.

Sigh.

It is amazing how the holiday season brings out the most un-holiday spirits out in people. I saw two cars battling for the same handicapped parking space (and yes, both had handicapped plates). Somehow that it just wrong.

So I feel it is my ill-appointed duty (line from a song) to somehow turn peoples' attitudes around for at least 23 seconds. Today, I did get a scowling women (isn't scowling a cool word? You have to scowl to even READ it) in line at the pharmacy to laugh, a cashier to smile, and Target to report an increase of 0.0006% increase in their profits for this quarter. It helps that I have no shame and no embarrassment meter; if I can be silly, I'll be silly.

I'm very glad my truck (or rather the bumper-statements ON my truck) makes people smile - while walking by, in the car behind me, and (inevitably) the car right in my blind spot, but with the passenger reading them aloud for the driver. I have met, however, ONE person who is completely convinced that all my stickers are WRONG - "How do you think you are ever going to SELL it? Don't you know it's damaging the PAINT!'

And one more good thing about my truck - no one would ever dare steal it (I can just hear the Sierra Vista police car's radio: "Be on the look-out for that goofy truck with all the stickers - this town is small enough that most people KNOW it's my truck!).

To me, this blog is an easy place to express my thoughts (or, more correctly, spew out blasphemy into cyberspace), and all you need to do it place a keyboard within range and keep the humidity low enough so my fingers can move without too much pain. I generally do a spell-check before I publish (since my spelling ability is lower than a Russian kindergartner in Missouri), once in a while actually proof read, but rarely edit or, in the words of one reader, 'agonize' over it.

Now I am beginning to wonder is that 'agony' is responsible for the high quality of materials in this one reader's script and photography? She is a little bit more of a perfectionist than I am (understatement of the century right there; I will wear anything to include things with large holes in sensitive areas, serve anything that doesn't have swarms of gnats over it, and greet people happily into my home with a large greyhound laying on the couch, cat and dog hair in matted wonder on the carpet, and dust thick and space available enough to write the first half of "War and Peace" (by the way, has anyone actually read all of War and Peace? I mean all of it? We all say we have, but I don't thing even professors of English lit get all the way to the second half - which is why I am only extolling the virtues of writing the first half in my ready-and-usable dust)).

Wait, where was I? And does it matter enough to even try to get back on this train (choo-choo!) of thought?

Okay, back to ME, the important point (ha!). I have promised myself some quality time with a particularly spoiled pet of mine (but since he weights 1,000+ lbs., I have to say that quickly only while I am indoors), so I am going to throw hay gleefully (I can't even read that word without smiling) over the fence, and then tackle cleaning some of the incredibly filthy hair (mud-encrusted at BEST).

Hmm... wonder if I can be taught over the Internet how to create a bouffant horse-hair style?

I am very, very seriously worried about me - there are advertisements on television for The Simpson Movie, and I KNOW who/what Spider Pig is. I can even sing the song. Comes from living with my daughter for eleven months.

I am also contemplating closing my business. The last three pianos I have tuned have ended up sounding worse when I was done. Although I have always made it clear I am a tuner and not a technician, it looks like I am going to end up paying for a broken string that occurred while I was tuning. I've been working on my own piano, and somehow whatever magic I've had in the past is gone - my OWN piano is still out-of-tune.

Plus the price of gas is rapidly making a difference in my profit - especially since the last three pianos have been over an hour's drive away. And the advertising costs are prohibitive enough that I have simply stopped anything outside of the yellow pages - and even that is only on-line.

It's tight enough financially even without the token earnings I make; should I just give it up and make do? I cannot tell you how much I LOVE not having a regular job - I'm getting enough sleep, am doing so many projects that I've put off for DECADES (and I am not exaggerating - I mean DECADES).

I'm making this a matter of prayer, but so far I am getting a definite impression that this is like asking Heavenly Father what brand of green beans to purchase - this is something I need to make the decision on.

Any advice?

There is only one good thing abut being ill - and that is the appreciation you feel when you get better.



I am surprising myself by a newly-discovered snarling, hackle-rising fury over a age-old (well, since electricity became available in houses) Christmas tradition - holiday lights. People put them all around the house, set up neon nativities, wired Santa & reindeer in the front yard, and happily flick the switch at dusk to allow the lit splendor (sic) to shine all night.



But out in the country, at least our country, we have some pretty strict light-pollution laws already in place. When I first moved out here almost eight years ago, I quietly giggled at the concept of light "pollution" and dismissed it as a nit-picky code for people to use when the 100 watt bulb on their neighbor's porch was too bright, and they would take them to court to get a 60 watt bulb in instead.



However, now that the lights of the nearest (and rapidly growing) city are washing out some of our night-sky views, and the flood-lights of the latest Border Patrol substation west of Naco are on ALL night, I begin to realize that, unless checked, this may become as bad as L.A. when I was growing up - if you could see five to ten stars at night, that was a big deal.



And I thoroughly enjoy each (non-overcast) night (which is the majority here) the incredible expanse of night-sky - the Milky Way in all it's glory - the meteorite showers that surprise you with their quickness and brightness - how more and more stars appear the longer you stay out until your head begins to spin with the sheer magnitude of space.



We do not have streetlights of any sort out here, all outside lighting is supposed to be 'shielded', and with rural zoning, land parcels must be a minimum of four acres. But with the 'new' people moving out, wanting paved roads and convenience stores, this is all coming under attack.



So I have discovered that I am an OLD FASHIONED SAYING NO TO PROGRESS SHOOT OUT THE NEW LIGHTS GOSH DARN WITH MY PISTOL B&^TCH!! Well, not shooting anything out... yet. But quite suddenly all of those Christmas lights are NOT on my good list.

I need to go back to school, get a degree in mental health, and get PAID for all the free counseling / advice I simply GIVE away every day. Either that or someone needs to make up a legitimate-sounding-enough alphabet-soup that can follow my name and give me enough credibility to publish a book. How about W.L.T.G.T.C.J.F.E.A.N.A.D (Whole-Lotta-Time-Going-To-College-Just-For-Education-And-Not-A-Degree)?

However, I obviously have not been banned completely from the Benson School District - I got a call today for another piano tuning at the middle school. The only problem is that they need it done NOW (early next week), so I'm going to have another day of crazy driving in opposite directions to get to (now) two tunings AND a church event (showing support for a very small - read that three sisters last time - group that is writing our missionaries and/or service people every month).

And why am I complaining? I'm getting paid for all of this - two with money, one spiritually.

I am seriously beginning to doubt myself. I mean, I have been tuning pianos off and on for more than a few years, and generally when I am done with a piano, it sounds better. That's the entire idea.

Now I have made THREE trips to Benson for TWO pianos - and will be going the third time to another one in Hereford. What is wrong with me?! Or are there evil genies hiding behind the keyboards and messing me up on purpose? A curse from another tuner I don't know about in town?

So I am dealing with it the only way I know; forcing myself to PRACTICE more. I have a decent Yamaha at home, and I can play/work with it for hours if I need to - and I think I need to.

However, it is also n0t a whole lot of fun to untune your piano and then retune it. I guess I should look positively at the situation - I will have a fridge full of Caffeine-Free-Diet-Dr-Pepper on hand, two dogs will will watch me adoringly, and a cat will will insist on walking on the keyboard occasionally to play "As Time Goes By." And I can take a break anytime I want without having to worry about the person who is paying me walking in.

Okay, now can someone remind me of these wonderful aspects tomorrow when I have to take my Yamaha apart?

I am officially an old person now.

Driving has always been a major form of recreation to me. I mean, I grew up in L.A., and if you can't deal with the freeways, you don't survive (actually, not quite that bad, but....). In fact, I got a great quote forwarded to me today: "If you raise your children to be nice and polite, they'll never be able to merge onto a freeway."

But (back to driving) some of my best memories are from cross-country driving trips... well, maybe I better admit that those are cross-country trips with my DAUGHTER. Although the Kalamazoo to Las Vegas straight-through-no-stops-except-for-bathroom-breaks-with-a-puppy-in-the-car-through-MAJOR-rain-deludes-and-tornado-warnings was sort of fun also...

However, after driving to Benson, ONLY 48 miles north of me, on Friday, yesterday AND today - my butt is tired, my eyes are tired, I am even tired of iPod songs that I have CHANGED for each ride!!!!

So there is an old lady inside of me whining and complaining, and I'm afraid, VERY afraid, that I am going to start LISTING to her!!

AAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

Okay, I have been dealing with a professionally paranoid, cynical and negative individual for some thirty years. This dude has made a living from thinking of what bad people could do, and then figuring out how to build a defense against that. Suffering from severe depression all of his life may have helped some of that destructive thought-process, but again, this is nothing new.

So tonight I got just a little bit scared when he calls from the grocery store (commissary, to us military types) and is undergoing a panic attack - just simple fear of being surrounded by people. And by the time he got home, he was convinced that 'someone' was outside - asking me, "do you always have the shades part way up? Can they be put down?" and "Why did the porch light just go on?" "There is someone outside, I am certain!"

The only positive aspect of this is that he RECOGNIZES that this is paranoid and abnormal behavior, and he doesn't usually feel like this. And he did agree fairly quickly to taking a sleeping pill and going to bed.

It's probably a good thing that I know his psychiatrist as well as I do - an appointment tomorrow will be made if this is still happening in the morning.

I'm also trying how to work tomorrow. I went up to Benson (about an hour and a half drive) Friday morning REAL early for a two-piano job - went back TODAY since they have a concert tonight, and it needed a touch-up.... and now am expected back TOMORROW for the follow-up on the second piano and since they have a half-day... but I also have to be up in Benson DAY after tomorrow for a counseling appointment!

Gas ain't cheap anymore, my truck doesn't get hybrid mileage, and I am honestly TIRED of making this three hour drive every day. But I also want to keep the business, the customers happy, and the work moving along. So I guess the idea of going out tonight and letting the air out of my own tires isn't such a great idea, is it?

Any other suggestions, I am open to. But I may be checking the afore-mentioned-individual into a Tucson mental institution - that would a very novel excuse, and it would save me from telling a lie.

I here admit publicly (how much more public can you get than the Internet?) that I am a biased, prejudiced, very unfair individual. I normally (following my husband's teachings that over-tipping generally leads to much better service & attention the next time) (although I don't necessary tip as drastically as he does - 20% is okay, 60% is silly) tip whomever loads my hay at the feed store onto my truck (and sincerely wish that I could tip them enough to take them home and the UNload the stuff - oh, my aching back!).

And today I did NOT tip the dude that loaded my seven bales of alfalfa because he ended up being almost the epitome of a redneck - self-described "Irish Kentuckian" former Army Ranger, who maintains that 70% of the oil drilled in Alaska goes to the Japanese, "who own most the U.S. and we should have just bombed all to *@)$(* at the end of WWII", same option for the Middle East after the first Gulf War, and "there is MORE than enough oil for EVERY one in the world in the Texas and Arkansas fields - they just cap the wells and keep it a secret from everyone."

So... does that make me as bad as he is? I honestly believe any person capable of making you angry can control you - and I let this guy REALLY irritate me!

I also don't recycle my Caffeine-Free Diet Dr. Pepper soda cans - so I'm going straight to hell, I know.

However, I am incredibly proud of how professionally I handed not one but TWO calls today about, um, er... pianos not holding their entire tune from past week. I masterfully blamed it on our rather extreme weather over the weekend (rain, dropping temperatures, and CRAZY wind up to 80 mph which blew over a lot of trees, roofs, and brick walls... really!), and immediately offered a return visit for a free 'fix-it." Both clients/customers gratefully accepted, and I breathed a great big sigh of relief when I hung up. One thing a piano tuner does NOT need is unhappy piano-players - we really do rely on repeat business.

And I was also unrighteously proud of my daughter's observation of me starting and (hopefully) my own business - it is so nice to have hard work (and a real leap-of-faith for m) acknowledged. So thanks, kiddo (besides, you are the only one who reads this late-night ramblings of mine!!).

Harmony mentioned something yesterday that I hadn't really thought about before; she was having a difficult coming up with something for her blog if she didn't 'feel' like writing. I guess I just always imagine I am talking to someone who can't interrupt, can't argue, and HAS to pay attention to whatever I am saying! Sort of like talking to Murray.

I am trying to write this, finish up my laundry, watch re-runs of "Firefly", watch for essential email updates so I can hopefully get the ward bulletin done TONIGHT instead of the 9:25 a.m. Sunday morning scramble, AND deal with a headache (which I think is simply my eyes trying to tell me that I've been on the computer for too many hours today).

I think the expression "multi-tasking' came into play with some man came up with it to make himself sound better on his work evaluation - it's what we women have been doing for centuries before.

I was jokingly accused of 'bribery' tonight when I ordered a pizza for my second child (it's a deal we have - if she works more hours than she is scheduled to, I get her a combination pepperoni/ supreme medium). And although it's four hours until the Sabbath, and I will probably be struck with lightening for this observation, isn't sort-of long-term bribery what Heavenly Father uses on us? Promise for celestial glory - eternal families - exaltation? I guess it sounds better to say 'promises', and it definitely isn't instant gratification (which is what my second child works on), but really, isn't it bribery?

(Okay, I'm ready for that zap - KABOOM!!!!!)

TWO posts in one day? As Harmony put it, it's a slow news day.

Why is it when you remind someone of something they don't want to do, it's nagging, even if it's the first time you mentioned? I either have developed a(nother) major memory loss, or someone is just getting a little touchy. I'm being reminded of the 'many, many times' I have been told ______, when I honestly have never heard ______ before (and I have been married to this 'someone' for almost thirty years?!).

And I must be a little bit more nervous about this 'follow-up' ultrasound than I am willing to admit - or the planets are in the weirdest alignment in 52 years - because I am just hovering on the edge of major mind-trips almost all the time now. My daughter mentions veggies she is smuggling into her children's' food (my grandson hadn't caught on yet), and I have the taste of sweet potatoes in my mouth for the next hour. I rewatch an old episode of "The Office," and suddenly the commercials I saw with the show last time I watched it on television are blasting in my mind. I hear a old song (most of the time on the cable music station I keep on at home for the dogs while I'm out), and then it's replaying for about ten minutes in my DEAF ear.

I know it's something about memory triggers, and it would make it easier for several neurologists to send their kids to Harvard if I followed up on this, but I'm more than willing to just keep taking deep breaths to relax and let them pass by, which they always do, ... eventually.

And part of this may be that I am more and more determined to NOT mention my Monday appointment at the radiology department to anyone else (other than my daughter, who, of course, knows every detail of my life... including some she probably should not know). One individual in particular freaks out at the thought of a perfectly health greyhound at some time in the future passing away. If something, ANYthing, in my life gets any kind of negative prospect, I am not willing to live with that 'oh no what is/might/possibly might happen.' As I get older, I am more and more convinced that the secret of life is live in the present moment and enjoy it - the past is gone, and you can't change whatever has happened, and we have very limited control over the future (just don't give everything away and wander into the desert wearing only a loin cloth... Harmony, I know I never have to worry about YOU doing anything like this - if you did wander into the desert, it would be driving a fully-equipped SUV with AC, two DVD players, and two to three fully packed suitcases of clothing in the back).

Whew! I think you need some sleep, Hope - go to bed!

I agree with Harmony that cold rainy days are best spent at home with candles, a warm blanket and a good book (although the term 'cold' is very relative - anything below 85, in my case). I feel completely drained just from driving up to Benson and tuning two pianos, and the grey dark atmosphere outside doesn't help at all.

Plus I agreed to go help out at our little local cafe tonight. It's no big deal, it's not like I get paid (just a free slice of Pam's homemade pie for my husband while he waits for me and reads a book), but Pam did specifically ask, so...

But aren't conditions like this the reason hot chocolate and marshmallows were invented?

I am watching the movie "K-Pax," which I love... until it gets towards the end, and actually gets back into reality. Prot, the character played by Kevin Spacey, is just wonderful. I mean, he is actually a very confused human in a mental institution, who believes he is an alien from the planet K-Pax.

And, as an alien, he is this incredible compassionate being that you just end up loving. (And Jeff Bridges is very believable as the shrink who beings to believe that Prot is actually an alien)

I worked for a psychiatrist for almost two years, and got to know a few individuals who got locked away periodically into certain wards in Tucson hospitals. Some people need to escape from reality - and some days I can completely understand that.

Part of this relating to escape is the fact that I have to drive over an hour to tune a couple of pianos at a high school. I am grateful for the business, and normally I love long drives - it’s just that I have to be there BEFORE 7:30 a.m.

I’m not a morning person (family members could testify that I am not a human being until late afternoon), and I am still fighting the battle against Diet Coke. And I just KNOW I am going to succumb and get an extra-large Diet Coke... going and coming back home!

I guess there are worse things in the world - it’s not heroin or crack cocaine. I just keep thinking should be way beyond the temptation.

And all this began from watching the SciFi channel!

The television series "House" interests me because the main character (surprisingly, named Dr. House) is the antithesis of the typical fictional doctor. Instead of being patient (no pun intended), kind, and with a wonderfully nurturing bedside manner, House is crass, rude, completely self-centered and mean; however, he also is a brilliant diagnostician, so somehow he keeps his job season after season.

Another physician on the series is the caring, thoughtful and compassionate type, but it still takes me a while each show to get past him being from "Dead Poet Society" (the actor, not the character). In the show last night (if you are still with me), this Dr. Goodguy discovered that he had misdiagnosed a patient, and had to tell him that he did NOT have cancer (or some certain-to-be-dead-in-three-months disease). The patient, surprisingly, was FURIOUS - he had sold his house for a loss, had tickets to Venice (Italy, I'm certain, not California), and "was happy living in the present. Now (with the newer diagnosed of NOT dying) you've taken that away."

How much of our lives are spent not in the present, but mulling over the past, anticipating/dreading the future, and not enjoying right now right here this moment. And how many of us would change our lives if we knew we only had an X amount of time to live. Places we would travel, old friends we would look up, people we would forgive.

So the extrememly simple question is: why don't we go ahead and do all of that NOW?

I don't think I'd do a lot differently - but I would probably be braver about getting a saddle back on my horse and (finally) riding him. I'd get more of my life history written, and get through the rest of my old photos. And I would probably eat a WHOLE lot more of Preiumn Selection Mint Moose Tracks ice cream.

And a completely different subject altogether, but I saw a Clairol ad in a magazine yesterday, for covering gray hair, that said, "Q: I don't just hate the way I look when my grays are showing, I hate the way I feel! It really does a number on my ego! Help! Clairol A: It's all about control. .. if you feel you are in control of your grays, you'll feel better all around."

HELP!! How about being in control of your emotions, and your self-image!!??!! It is so incredibly JUVENILE (although I freely admit that I do this WAY too often myself) to let your outside environment / circumstances (i.e. gray hair, living in NJ, being 5'3") control your happiness. Yes, yes, I know, I do it too... and way too often for someone who supposedly knows better. And, of course, since I LIKE my gray hairs, and I never got prematurely gray like 85% of the rest of my family, it's easy for me to get on my soap-box.

I cannot give Colin a bad time anymore about going through Murray-withdrawal; I am going through Harmony-Blake-Colin-Kate withdrawal myself!

In a feeble effort to help me get through such suffering, I am fixing this evening the infamous "Three Cheese Chicken," (ignoring protests from my husband, who is not in love with this food item) which, according to my statistics, Harmony and I ate 89.45% of all evenings from July 2006 to June 2007 (the other 10.55% were Taco Bell).

And now I am panicking after taking a closer look at the ingredient listing of the frozen entree I lived on for almost a year -
"RIB MEAT COATING WITH SEASONINGS" means what; coating with seasoning of dust from the factory floor where the ribs fell?
"DEFATTED SOY FLOUR"-isn't soy supposed to be already non-fat?
"AUTOLYZED YEAST EXTRACT" - doesn't that sound like something in sa Nissan automobile assembly line?

And last but more definitely NOT least: "CHABLIS WINE" Heck, I have gotten away the past thirty-one years claiming to be an observant Latter-Day Saint - is this something I need to talk to my bishop about? Should I turn my temple recommend in? Is excommunication in the works already?!?!

My grandson is suffering Murray-withdrawal, and I need to be thankful that he is going through it in California, not here. However, I am missing the patter of tiny... excuse me, size 4 feet POUNDING from one end of my house to the other, either in pursuit of Murray or Murray in pursuit of any illumination from one of many flashlights here, along with Kate either following or tottering unsteadily in her own direction.

However, I think I spoke more with my daughter on the phone today that any single conversation we had while they were here - any conversation in my home was punctuated with "Colin, put that down" or "Kate, stop poking the dog" or "Whose turn is it to change a diaper" or "No, I've had enough turkey / pie mashed potatoes / stuffing and my stomach is going to explode any second."

It is nice to be able to sleep in my own bed, and have the cat back home. Pandora wasted no time re-establishing himself as head-honcho of the gang and securing his regular spots on my bed, the freezer, and under my feet while I am on the computer. He has completely forgiven me for taking him to the kennel - or perhaps he is just so happy to be sprung from the place this morning.

I never think of myself as a procrastinator, but I obviously AM. Today I have only been doing things that I really like doing, instead of the necessary cleaning for my soon-to-be house guests. And I really don't think I'm going to be able to stay up very late tonight.

But ONE thing that was pretty cool - after having a less-than-wonderful late breakfast with a rather grumpy individual (no, not my husband this time), stopping at the bank to get some cash to pay for a remarkable canine transformation (my dog got his first bath in about five years, and is now looking very sharp), and discovering due to a duplicate payment, I was MINUS some significant money in my main account, and having to scramble and borrow money from afore-mentioned-grumpy-individuals account (it is nice sometimes having your kid to be able to swipe some money from)....

... and THEN stopped by Target (they have the cleanest public restrooms), was very forcibly reminded that I could NOT do any shopping (aforementioned shortage of cash), but THEN finally did something VERY smart. It's my version of "Count Your Many Blessings." I am a writing sort of person - so I began to list the NEGATIVE things that had happened today (three) and then began listing the POSITIVE things that had happened today - and after about twenty-five, began to feel much better about my day.

However, on second thought, I am writing this blog-silliness to AVOID doing any more cleaning.... AAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH!!

I may have created a monster today. I took my cat to the vet today - first time he has been outside of the house in about six years. He had quickly fought his way out of TWO boxes I created as possible carriers for him (this cat is not a wimp), so I wrapped him up in a towel and just carried him out.

Fortunately, once in the truck, he climbed up right next to the rear window, and besides making horrible moaning sounds and panting heavily in my ear, was pretty good the entire drive in (although I was completely on-edge, waiting for him to freak out and jump on the gas pedal or something).

At the vets, he was surrounded by dogs - which actually made him pretty comfortable, since he is the boss of two dogs at home. And the vet was wonderful, the cat was even calm as she was doing two injections.

However, now I have a cat who waits at the front door - who has discovered the outside world at last. I am fully expecting to wake up in the morning to find my truck and keys missing, and CNN to have live-coverage of a cat driving a pick-up on I-10, headed towards Texas (who knows why, Texas just always sounds like a place a cat would head towards; maybe because of cattle and beef).

Again, watch Headline News in the morning.

My dog began furiously barking this afternoon, and obviously had seen something he considered threatening/evil outside that was going to place all of us in mortal jeopardy - most likely a rabbit or the neighbor's dog who often wanders by. Since I greatly respect his opinion (he is good at pointing out illegals cutting through our back yard, although I may not agree with his view of killer-rabbits), I opened the front door and let him out to explore/meet the danger head-on.

And I don't know why I was so surprised to find a turtle outside our door. Well, to be perfectly honest, I was surprised because I thought it was simply a ROCK at first - with the head and legs all tucked neatly in, it did look just like the rest of the rocks around the base of our house. When the little turtle-head popped out, I did a little dance of surprise and glee, and considered seriously (for just a moment) trapping it and KEEPING it until my grandchildren get here in (what) four days.

I have decided to NOT paint anymore until after Thanksgiving, when I can take advantage of my daughter's expert opinion and great eye for color. Of course, I will have to make certain that she does approve of the color mistakes - excuse me, CHOICES that have already been afflicted upon my poor rooms (hint hint hint). However, since I have to rely on her and her husband's assistance to get my hay shed roof (finally) on, I guess I may need to tread softly.

No, the heck with it, I will STOMP and HAVE MY WAY. HA, NO MATTER WHAT! Bigfoot, watch out, here I come!

#1 - First, make certain you have read the entry right before this one.

#2 - No, really, go down and read it, or this won't make any sense (admittedly, this still may NOT may any sense, but I will feel relieved of any responsibility for that).

#3 - I can now die happy. The William Shatner musical version of Julius Cesear was the close of the movie - and it was done in RAP.

Really, you can take me now, Lord.

I am watching the movie "Free Enterprise" - William Shatner as William Shatner, with a group of Star Trek freaks. Again, one of those movies, like Shakespeare In Love, that is funnier the more you have watched the original Star Trek. Very bad Captain Kirk monologues by the lead guy (who, however, is very very cute - love long hair and glasses), constant quoting from "That Episode," and William Shatner's one dream is to create, produce, and star in a musical version of "Julius Cesar."

And I'm doing this to avoid painting a ceiling!

Today I spent way too much time somewhere else. Trying to convince my 'other' daughter that she canNOT have gastric bypass surgery until she actually tries a reasonable diet for a reasonable amount of time (i.e. more than 15 minutes). Then sitting with her through a doctor's appointment where he said the exact same thing I was saying. Then waiting for a haircut rather than drive 30 minutes to turn right around and drive back 15 minutes later. And although it was a great haircut (included a head massage - alright), I just wasn't ready to spend one hour getting one, then to rush home to let out two dogs who had been crossing their doggy legs for seven plus hours.

So here is my problem - someone, quick, give me a solution - is there any way to paint a ceiling without also painting your newly shorn (it is very, very short) hair?!

I am simply having way too much fun right now. I am painting walls very odd shades of green (nothing so far is turning out to look like the color swatches I got), trying not to get discouraged by the trail of paint cans, wet brushes and drop-clothes (which the cat has taken over tunneling through as his main recreation for now), as well as odd drops hitting the carpet, piano and my hair (good thing I’m getting it cut on Friday).

I am, however, getting frustrated with the newest member of our family. Greyhounds cannot be just let ‘loose’ - they have a habit of taking off in one direction and never returning. Our previous grey, Lady, got to the point where she could be trusted, even on her own, to come back. Dehlia, our new one, so far can’t even be trusted to get from the front porch into the house sometimes, and this is severely limiting any activity with Najale, my horse. I can’t walk them together for fear that Najale will trample Dehlia to death (boy, wouldn’t that be a fun thing to tell Bill) - Dehlia freaks out a little bit just when I take her with me to feed the horse(s) some carrots. She realizes they are big and somewhat scary, but she doesn’t quite know how to get out of their way.

So, my dear, concentrate on the things you ARE able to do, not the few select things you canNOT do. "Be content with such things as ye have" Hebrews 13:5 (and don’t be too impressed with me quoting scripture - I only remembered it because I read it a couple of days ago) (and it’s right after one of my FAVORITE scriptures - "Be not forgetful to entertain strangers" - I just get this little image of me in a straw hat and tap shoes doing a soft-shoe routine for some complete foreigner in middle-eastern garb, eating popcorn out of one of those huge movie pails and applauding - it just makes me smile).

Wait a minute, where was I? And does it really matter?! And no, I have taken any drugs... at least not today... that I know of....

Tomorrow I get my first ‘digital’ mammogram. I’m not nervous, just a little uneasy - my mom had breast cancer, and my best friend, Annette, has/had it (the cancer was removed, but she’s still undergoing radiation treatment). And if I come down (come up? go sideways?) with cancer, I don’t think I’d want to treat it (i.e. cure it, get rid of it, carve it out, etc.). It always seem so futile to undergo cancer treatment to get a few more years of life.
However, if I get the news, the basic human survival instinct will probably just kick in, and I’ll do whatever the doctor recommends. I don’t think I’m suicidal, but I’m not afraid of dying (if you are going straight to hell, why put it off any longer?!) (Joke there, friend).

Wow, how do I get from paint colors to cancer survival in the same blog?! I think you are rambling just a little too much tonight, my friend.

Say 'Good Night', Gracie!

I'm painting the front room of my house, and trying not to wince about the shades of green I selected. The first wall was horrible - too flat (the paint, as opposed to semi-gloss that I thought it was - yes, I know, walls are supposed to be flat) - but after I removed the blindingly-blue painters tape and put back up all my wall junk (chalkboard, bulletin board, coat hangers, etc), it wasn't too bad. I am keeping my fingers crossed about wall #2, but I am also stopping to let it settle in a bit more before I tackle any more.

I am certain a nap will make almost everything all better. Only I do have a new problem child at home - Dehlia, a three-year-old retired racer, who sleeps like the proverbial log except when I am trying to sleep. Then she paces back and forth, with her two I.D. tags clanging together like cymbals, comes up to my feet, sniffs at my toes, and the sighs as loudly as she can. She's sound asleep on her back right now, so I may try to sneak off without waking her.

Wish me luck.

Should there be a limit on certain things? Can you really take too many photographs of cute, smiling babies in the bathtub? Should we move for congressional limitations on bars of soap?

The things I do think should have a limit:
- Number of baby showers given for one person/baby
- Sneezes
- Amount of time taken for one person in testimony meetings
- Runs in a pair of nylons before you have to throw them out (I just keep wearing 'em with longer skirts)
- Number of candidates in a single presidential debate
- Asparagus


Things I think you simply cannot have enough of:
- Sticky kisses from children you love
- Chocolate
- Warm fluffy towels right from the dryer
- Cool breeze coming down from the mountains the instant the sun sets
- Reruns of "The Office"

I think I just had a spiritual vision.

I grew up with a lot of Catholic influence (my dad taught music in Catholic private schools, and my best friend in elementary school was Catholic), and all the faith-prompting tales about the Shroud of L-something, visions of deceased nuns in Mexico, Christ's image on an old tuna fish sandwich bun, etc. (sorry, this is sounding just a little bit more flippant than it should - well, actually, I do mean it to be slightly frivolous, I just am pretending to be concerned about offending someone... when I really don't care).

And today I (finally) received a connecting cord so I can download images from my digital camera (a wonderful gift from my daughter but one that I haven't used as much.... because I haven't had a cord so I can download anything) that have been clinging for about the last 18 months to whatever little digital chip hangs on to them....

Where was I? Oh, yeah, downloading. I just plugged in the cord this afternoon, and I swear, on the little monitor/view/lens on the camera, there appeared (GASH!) a photograph of JIM HALPERT. Honestly! It was just THERE. I think I fainted... but when I came back to consciousness a short while later, the image was STILL THERE.

Then I remembered that I had snapped a photo off the television the last episode I saw of "The Office" just for fun.

Oh, well. Things that happen to Mormons don't get canonized or put in the Deseret News or anything like that. Maybe you could just mention it around your local play group; let's see if we can get it posted on the Internet.... wait a minute, I just did that, didn't I? ;-)

This afternoon I was perfectly and completely content. I was driving back home in my comfortable truck - both windows down - listening to a new play list on my daughter's retired iPod - eating oriental chicken wraps from Applebees. Sounds almost like a beer commerical, doesn't it?

The greatest thing about partial memory loss is you can't remember what you should be worried about. It's a wonderful freedom. I really don't know if it's memory loss, or if I have finally reached the point where I just honest and truly don't care - but it's good. I don't have concerns about a job (although it has been an extremely long hiatus of piano tuning for me) or any nagging guilt about the house (besides one spare bedroom piled to the eaves with a whole lot of 'yes-this-is-worth-keeping-I-just-have-no-room-right-now'). It doesn't matter to me that I have a soon-to-be six-year old completely unbroken gelding - the unfinished shed is half-painted and has only part of a roof leaning atop of a hay-bale. Who cares?

But I'm nibbling away all day at labeling photographs - I've spent quality time with my one child within visiting distance - I've walked the dogs AND my horse twice today. My only duty left tonight before bed is to locate what is left of the field mouse my cat was proudly carrying, very much alive, around as a trophy this evening. I don't think the mouse was ever released, and I can't imagine my cat actually eating very much of him (sort of a Meow-Mix-kibble-eater - sort of a vegetarian feline, in fact). Does anyone know of a forensic rodent expect I could call on?

Each and every day, we as individuals on earth perch our own little set of fractured and stained lenses on our noses to begin the day. We all peer out, blinking through the streaming waterfall of tears, completely unaware of the major cracks, smears and distortions of the glasses, and throughout the day, frantically sorting out the images stumbling through to our brain to achieve some sense of stability. Whatever kaleidoscope splintered binge gets into our neural pathways becomes our reality.

And, of course, our burned and ingrained bits of gray matter scream "Of course this is the way! There is no other!" in shrill fright of any other course will cause us to 'die' in some improbable and most certainly very painful emotional way. It takes an incredibly sense of bravery to step out into that void, beyond your own world, to discover that 'their' path/stairs may be just as read and solid as your own. The anticipated pain dissolves as your feet stay on either your pathway, or you make the first tentative step over to the radically-alternated reality, seen 'their' way. But we all remain unalterably fixated on the truth of 'our' way, even as we make condensation for others.

So what is all this high-flaunting-psychobabble worth? For me, it can only serve as a humble reminder that even though I, of course, recognize the 'real' truth, and am the ONLY correct one ( ) to do so ( ), it does not change the other individuals' perception, their reality, their 'truth,' unless they actually put on your reality - your glasses, with their fractures, cracks and colorations.

Unless, of course, you realize there is very much at least one individual with 20/20 vision of what's going on right now, what we are supposed to learn from it, what we are to change in ourselves, how we are supposed to cope with it. And again, it is deliberately giving up OUR view, and accepting Heavenly Father's counsel and advice from his eternal view. Quite suddenly our view can go far beyond the individual petty disagreements, and the love our Father has for ALL of his stumbling, half-blind children comes into focus.

And that's the thing we are supposed to learn here, I think - that's the big lesson - to love each other regardless of what blithering idiots we all are to each other. And you know that I am right!!!....... right? ;-)

This morning, my life flashed before my eyes. Well, it wasn't actually my eyes, it was the greyhound, who streaked past me through the open front door, and took off for whatever greyhound haven she was certain was right down the road.

I had gotten very spoiled with our previous grey, who would go out and 'play' greyhound a couple of times a day, run at a 45 degree angle to the ground as she careened sharply around the house once or twice, come back in, and sleep the rest of the day. And my own dog can wander off for hours, and always returns happy, smiling and tired (and yes, he is neutered, so it's not that type of smile, you dirty-minded reader you)..

Thankfully on this occasion, Dehlia only ran about thirty yards and then turned around and came right back. Whew!

I am getting that all-too-familiar tightness in my throat today. I'm helping to M.C. a church talent show tonight, have a piano to tune tomorrow as well as a dental appointment. Which is nothing compared to when I also was working full-time.

However, I am feeling just a tad guilty - I mean, I'm home full-time, animals instead of kids, with albeit slow Internet access and lots of projects which I am happily completing for the first time in seven years. And several people have offered me jobs - I just don't want to. Money is embarrassingly tight, considering the amount of money my husband brings in - credit card debt, county and state taxes doubled in one year, a kid in college and one kid who still needs financial assistance every month despite being on just about every state low-income program there is (and there are a lot here, thank goodness).

I've asked repeatedly for some financial advice from my bishop, who feels that this should be discussed with both of us - and if we can solve the communication problems, we can work this out together. HA! I think hell will freeze over first. I can understand some of my spouse's attitude - he is terrified he is going to be 'found out' and lose his job (incredibly low-self esteem - I mean, negative numbers in three digits), never will plan a budget, and simply blows up when the subject is introduced... therefore, he then doesn't to deal with, and I'm left holding the (symbolically) empty wallet and the not-paid bills.

Thanks - this is just an open-air journal, but it does help to write it down. Clears my mind... which actually is a pretty scary thought, because it's not carrying that much in it anyway!

I just heard the gayest thing I've heard for a while on a 70's Hits cable station - "Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow"... sung by a guy. Now it's back to normal ("Feel Like Makin' Love" by Bad Company) - but that's a question women ask, not men.

Weird.

And my daughter seems to be trapped in a 50's sitcom tonight; I'm a little bit worried about her. However, since her son is showing that her photographic genius is obviously being passed on, I will set that aside for the moment.

May I only add that each generation ('cept maybe Adam and Eve) looks back with fond remembrance of the 'old' days, which life was simpler, easier, and made more sense. When you are living through it, however, it's not a pretty site at times. So I will continue to stress the adage - "Just think, in six months, this will all be just a funny story to tell."

I must mention how much I enjoyed an antique, discarded trinket of years (months?) long past - 'someone's' old iPod shuffle. Radio station reception is less than perfect this far south (unless you like Mexican rock and very bad sombero music), and I absolutely savoured the half-hour drive into town this afternoon, listening to Randy Newman, Five for Fighting and Smashmouth. Even better was the fact that at least 75% of the songs I was playing I never would have HEARD unless I had been in California for that year. Hurrah for MP3 downloads, and my introduction to the iPod!

Okay, I am really confused right now. I have a self-acknowledged 'emotionally-crippled' family member, who has difficulty with any emotion other than anger (is very comfortable with anger, rage, aggression, etc.). Has a very honest fear of being hurt, of losing control (hmm, maybe I have more than one of those, now that I come to think of it) of situations. Will not let themselves love beyond certain limits.

This same individual (the first one afore-mentioned, we'll just let the other control-personality go for a minute) did allow a certain degree of emotional involvement with a pet, and was crushed when she died, approximately two years ago. Now we have another pet, and the same attachment is rapidly developing.

Okay, back to control-personality #2, who pointed out the absurdity of allowing such feelings to develop with an animal instead of blood-relatives-family-members (i.e. HUMAN) relationships. I can recognize that the 'safety' of such a involvement, especially with a canine (remind me some time to give you the outline of my talk on Murray's Christ-like attributes) who can be so incredibly forgiving.

Today? I think I am happy that this individual (back to #1 in this short series of lectures) was NOT emotionally-available at the time that my children, at least, were growing up.

Because this 'newer' canine has been walked an incredible amount of times, and a ridiculous distance (at least in my limited view of what is acceptable as a Sunday afternoon stroll) because (are you ready) she has NOT had a bowel movement... TODAY. Not for the last three days, not showing any pain or discomfort, not acting any different... but has not (as of 22:13 tonight) as of now.

Can you imagine this type of behaviour with three children, all within four years of each other?! I think it might have driven me even MORE crazy that the emotional indifference.

Well, it was nice while it lasted, but it ended at 7:20 p.m. tonight. I wish I knew what switch suddenly got turned off, and it would be wonderful if I could just reach over and click it back on. A good night's sleep may make some difference, but I doubt it. So it was, what, six days? A nice six days - could have been a lot less.

I did feel like an abusive parent this evening. I have been separating the horses at feeding time because the mare will stand aside and let the colt eat most of her share (why I still call that soon-to-be six year old spoiled gelding a colt is beyond me). The colt (who cares, it's kinda like your youngest is your baby no matter how long they get) gets put in the corral, and the mare left in the pasture... where she has access to water.

And Friday night is becoming an pattern - Bill and I go to our little food joint in our small rural community, and I bus tables and help the cook out during the dinner 'rush.' It's fun, we joke around, and Bill gets a free piece of pie.

However, tonight, I FORGOT about the colt. It wasn't days, he wasn't dying of thirst, but I sure as heck felt like a horrible mother. Sort of like finding out your baby has been in a messy diaper for six hours (although I don't think I'm going to go out and put Desitin on my horse's butt).

And somebody just wandered out of their room (yes, in their garments, and to get something to eat), and sort of put it all together: "I can't leave the terrorist stuff alone; I feel like I am losing the edge that keeps me good at my job." He's been off work all week, even let his assistant handle a last-minute (albeit important) meeting - I think he is suddenly feeling very insecure that his office HAS survived a week withOUT him.

Hmmmm.

Have I ever told you how proud I am of one specific child I have? She went literally across country to college by herself (well, actually, she and I drove cross-country, but then she was all on her own) and graduated with an A.S. in a year and a half. She married well (finally took my advice after a few years about whom she should wed), has been an incredibly supportive military spouse during six-month deployments and the normal crazy military moves and household changes, is raising two incredibly wonderful kids (the fact that they are my grandchildren isn't coloring my vision at all, right?), has had held various church leadership positions and had proved herself capable to doing LOTS more than she thought she was capable of.

Moreover, now that she has a VERY good camera, she may soon prove herself to be an outstanding professional photographer.

Hope her head doesn't get too swelled by reading this, but I just wanted to let her know what a wonderful person I think she is (and no, I am not expecting any discount on my future counseling session, honest).

Oh, may I thank the heavens every day that MY M.I.L. lives in a rural Oregon farming community, doesn't drive, doesn't fly, gets a phone call from me every Sunday , and whom I actually visit every two or three years when WE make the trip up to see her. This helps keep the relationship between us fairly calm.

However, I have a daughter who lives less than a half-hour away, whom I see ALL the time - who calls me several times a day, has multiple crisis a week, doesn't drive... but then calls on ME to drive her when necessary. Good thing that I love this kid, because man, she can be such a drain emotionally sometimes.

One added bit of calm, however - we have adopted another greyhound (Lady, our last grey, had to be put down about two years ago). Those unfamiliar with the breed assume that an ex-racing dog would be hyper and high-maintenance. Surprisingly, greys are the exact opposite - 40 m.p.h. couch potatoes. Dehlia does need two to three walks a day - and 'walk' is at a sedate, very calm pace - but then is sound asleep for most of the day. My dog gets along fine with her, and the cat already has her completely bamboozled - Dehlia respectfully lays down and turns her gaze aside whenever the cat waltzes past.

AND I am SOO excited that my OTHER daughter (the high-maintenance, multiple crisis a week one - but who DOES take care of herself, her family, her duties ... and me, most of the time, via long-distance counseling) and her family are coming for Thanksgiving. It is also getting focused on cleaning and decorating things that I have been able to ignore most of the six+ years I lived in this house. I am getting very creative in ways to 'disguise' some, hmmm, unmodifiable (is that a word) items (necessity if the mother of invention, right?). My carpet will remain stained, and I expect both Kate and Colin to add some new ones - but I'm just psyched to have them here for a few days. AND I am getting some painting done!

Why do people choose certain professions? I know sometimes it's because of a particular teacher who wonderfully influenced you - a family 'tradition' of a certain career - maybe something that struck your fancy in college.

But why do people become proctologists - gastroenterologists - ENT specialists? Well, I can't complain, at least not today, about someone becoming an Ear, Noise and Throat Specialist - I saw one today that fully redeemed my sinus-infection-drawn life of the past three to four months. But he was sort of... well, different. You could just see the 10th grade geek in the back of the classroom, probably with a slide-rule and pen protector. He had old-fashioned examination equipment - extremely weathered leather straps hanging onto shiny little doo-dads that I've only seen in Dr. Kildare re-runs from the 60's (Richard Chamberlein was a real cutie back then).

Listen, any of you odd.... I mean, doctors in UNIQUE specialities, let me know what prompted you, okay? Inquiring minds would like to know.

I simply love watching children in church sing and give short, memorized little bits of scriptures and/or spiritual thoughts - that is, I love it IF I do NOT 1) have a child up there to worry about and.or 2) be in charge of any group of the children that are in the presentation.

And talking today to a woman I have known for over eight years, I discovered something I never knew - she is dyslectic enough that she cannot read at all normally - she has to read a sentence at least three times (and I mean EACH and every sentence) to make certain she is getting it right. Very bright, very dynamic woman, always in a leadership position, very involved in her community. And she has to face this each and every day.

Wow, and sometimes I complain about stumbling over words and forgetting things.

It sometimes astonishes me how I act when I get tired. First it's just slight irritability - then a headache - and then almost anger (which is NOT a normal emotion for me) - and finally resignation and a resolve to simply cope with reality.

After waiting some four hours, I was long past the anger, and tried to be patient with the wait for "Dehlia" (Delhlia?), a greyhound up for an adoption today. Finally the foster parent showed up; a long-haired, 'fag'-smoking (I am saying fag because I am not entirely convinced that it contained tobacco at all) gentleman about my age, who was in fact obviously very very fond of Dehlia - an extremely multi-colored female grey; multi-colored in being sort of Dalmatian-spotted, random sections of almost tiger/tabby orange and black. But also affection, and NOT at all hyper.

Yes, I was weak, I was weary - I said "yes."

But we brought her home. And so far she is being great - very passive with my dog (who is not at all the alpha-male), avoids the cat completely (who IS the alpha-male), eats politely when my dog is finished, and asks nicely to go outside when necessary. She accepts the horses simply as over-sized dogs, and walks very calmly on a leash.

I'm just grateful she is sleeping in my husband's room, and not mine.

It's only 8:20 p.m., and quite cool now - I am trying to summon up the energy to go finish the painting in my study (i.e. walls, not any attempt at artwork), since it didn't get touched at all today. As I get older, I think I understand more and more why people use drugs - if I could give myself an adrenalin shot right now, I think I would.

I am, pure and simple, a Harry Potter geek. I just happened upon "The Chamber of Secrets" on the Disney channel about a half hour ago, and I am jumping up and down and yelling, "HEY! I never saw this scene before!! This must be the uncut director's-cut left-on-the-editing-floor-until-today" (didn't we have a discussion about the over-use of -s just the other-day?!) version!" I am enjoying it WAY too much for being an adult of... well, maturing years.

This evening I went and played busboy (buswoman?) at my favorite local cafe (which sounds so chic as opposed to a place where the cook wears a baseball cap and mumus). Friday night is their busier night (all-you-can-eat fish fry - there, does that totally destroy the latte-image?), and I simply offered to help. Doing dishes can be a whole lot of fun... if you can keep the right attitude. And that is something that I should write a book about - I can do it about almost every time (exceptions being nauseous, somebody else driving a car that I am in, and cleaning the cat box).

Now, I must go through about 37 color samples I picked up to day at Lowe's, if nothing else to eliminate my concept of combining Clay Ridge with Coriander, Anjou Pear, and Chilled Cantalope (don't you just love the names they come up with for paint colors?). Since my husband is pretty much color-blind when it comes to anykind of pastel, I can have free rein on just about any color. What do you think about Honeysuckle Bloom, Old Man River, and Wheatgrass (which, I am convinced, are shades which can only be recognized by women or gay men).

Good night - and Tom Riddle is now accusing Hagrid of unleashing the Chamber of Secrets - ARGGGHHHHH - sorry, I can't stop!!

I don't have anyone around to brag to - well, the dog and cat are here, but the cat isn't saying anything nice since I woke him up and moved him - and Murray loves everything and anything I do, so I can't take his comments too seriously. And my daughter is dealing with the mother-in-law-from-hell right now, right after moving back into their house after a wildfire which got within one mile of their home - I shouldn't really bother her.

But I have painted ONE WHOLE WALL in my study! YAHOO!! Yeah, ME! Yes, yes, I know, I still have three to go - but this way I at least get to make certain the colors (I'm using two shades of yellow - idea is to create an optical illusion that you think the further walls are nearer and the nearer walls are further) are gonna work. Plus I do still have to take down my lovely collection of license plates; but hopefully later this afternoon.

It's only been six+ years that I've been thinking about painting this room - maybe before 2013 I can actually get the rest of the house done ;-)

It's amazing what can be accomplished when one of your children is involved in the main CNN Headline News story for two to three days. Watching the S. California brush fires steadily getting closer and closer to where Harmony and Blake live, and become more and more convinced that their place was going to burn to the ground, it provided the perfect stimulant to make me 1) clear out my study (my equivalent to a garage - where you stick all your junk), 2) wash just about EVERthing in the house besides clothes (blankets, sheets, pillows, and more blankets), 3) advertise for someone to take my cat away for my known-allergic daughter (and have three names on file of people who will take Leader-Of-The-Known-World aka Pandora) and 4) FINALLY move some furniture that had needed to be moved for a couple of years.

Unfortunately, with all this wonderful bursts of energy, I have also fallen prey to stress-eating - although chocolate is a major food group, I have gone way beyond my month's worth of calories in three days. Extra-long walks with the horses and moving very heavy hide-a-beds (do you realize that I can actually sleep eight other people in this house?) haven't compensated for the junk food at all.

However, now that Harmony and Blake are safely home (albeit their cars won't be unloaded for a while just in case another evacuation order comes through), I can relax and enjoy my clean, organized house - no, wait, now that I have cleared that study, I am going to have to PAINT it before I move anything back in - and with at least 482 more photographs found, I have to continue work on my combined "This-Is-Your-Life-And-See-I-Have-Photos-To-Prove-It" work-in-progress.

So the only question that remains tonight - am I beginning to use -s like Harmony uses ""?!

Am I shouting? Is this too loud for everyone?

My husband contends that I am always speaking too softly - I think he doesn't want to admit any of HIS hearing loss.

We have a deaf sister in our ward, and although it's very interesting to watch her translator(s) throughout church, it's also making me appreciate more and more what hearing I do have left. It's still difficult when people who don't know me sit on my right side, and then think I'm simply ignoring them (although in some cases it might be the best thing to do). I have resigned myself to simply missing a lot of conversations. But as my daughter can testify, it's annoying as heck when I do respond to what I think someone has said... and am totally off!

I am setting forth some new goals this week to simply get/keep myself moving. This past week has been nothing much than a struggle to keep the kleenex one step ahead of my sinus, and at last I've found some medicine that seems to work... for at least an hour and a half. I have way too many things I want, not just need, to get done. Let us see if anything changes.